Words. They are so powerful. The cruellest of weapon to tear someone down, you don’t need a sword to destroy someone –one’s tongue is enough. Now though, in 2020 we have keypad to do the job. Internet allows people to have a mask –hidden away behind the computer to write anything in the comfort of your home, feeling invincible to comment on one’s appearance, where they come from to the smallest, pettiest thing. Not realising this is going out to the world –a moment of hatred can cause lifetime of pain ultimately leading to tragedy. If the very same people were told to say what they wrote out loud, 9 out of 10 will quiver. Nor will they have the courage to do so. Then why do we do it? Why is it so important to shove your opinions down one’s throat?
The same way words can be used to empower, strengthen, give voice to the voiceless and make one feel powerful. From Eleanor Roosevelt’s ‘’No one make you feel inferior, without your consent’’ to Michelle Obama’s ‘’When they go low, we go high’’. The power of words is extraordinary. It’s up to us in the way we choose to use it. It always is. Choose carefully. In a world where we can be anything –be kind.
A few breaking news in recent times has really made me caught my breath: the death of Caroline Flack was shocking beyond belief. At the age of 40, she decided to take her own life. She was one of 8 people in the UK today who has been tipped over the edge of how much they can bear. It is so saddening that many people feel this is the only way out. I could completely empathise with the feeling. I have seen loved ones going through this dark phase where they feel so very tired, angry and absolutely petrified of what’s to come next. Me included I have felt it. The feeling is so toxic. If you are feeling along the same lines, I want you to know help is available. It always is. Please reach out. It can be so terrifying to ask for help, to show one’s vulnerability but there’s no judgement. It is ok to ask for help. It is ok to say you are feeling sad. It is ok to feel insecure or terrified or lonely. I promise you it is fine.
Speaking from experience two years ago when I was forced to ask for help that eventually saved me from going into this impenetrable zone. Don’t let your precious life to become yesterday’s news.
Social media isn’t real. It’s an alternative version of reality. The pretty picture to the amazing sun lit adventures –on one’s life is perfect. And whoever portray that their life is perfect, they are lying. We try our best to be happy. It is not the ultimate goal, it’s a passing feeling. If we spent all our life in pursuit of happiness, we will never be happy. In the absence of happiness, we are filled with sorrow –ultimately it is in all these emotions we live, we thrive. We need to bear the darkness of the night to greet the warmth of the day.
What life is, we know not. What life does, we know well. –Lord Perceval
This reminds me of the documentary I have watched a while back of Tylor Swift’s ‘’Miss Americana’’. The biggest female artist and mostly is admired for her group of friends or the #modelsquad. The pictures we see on magazine of the colourful 4th of July parties to the friendship goals scattered around Instagram –one thing was visible throughout the documentary: Loneliness. Now this word would have never been associated with her. Never. So, here’s the thing: Don’t compare your life with what you see.
From the biggest celebrities to your high school mates: Everyone has problems. It may be invisible to our eyes, but it is there.
To media: There’s something deeply rotten here. Of the way media treats women. From Amy Winehouse to Rebekah Vardy, from Lilly Allen to Meghan Markle, from Princess Diana to Caroline Flack. TV stars to royalty. The bullying, cheap click baits to sensualist stories in the expense of someone’s privacy and ultimately their life. When do we say enough is enough? The recent trend of cancel hashtags on people and their career is so terrifying.
In a world that is filled with hate, show compassion. Fill the heart with love. Lend your time to someone who might be going through a difficult time.
Finally, to those who are struggling: You may not see the light now but believe me it is there. The light will find its way to you. Good day or a bad one –you win if you have hope. Hang in there. Soon enough you will prevail.
Don’t need to be cruel to be kind.
Just be kind.
- If you or someone you know needs support for issues about emotional distress, these organisations may be able to help.
-Samaritans is available for anyone struggling to cope and provide a safe place to talk 24 hours a day. Phone: 116 123
-Shout is a 24/7 text service, free on all major mobile networks, for anyone struggling to cope and in need for immediate help. Text SHOUT to 85258
-HOPELineUK offer support, practical advice and information to young people considering suicide and can also offer help and advice if you’re concerned about someone you know. Phone: 0800 068 41 41
Keep smiling! Thanks, so much for reading xoxo