In today’s post I want to write about what we are in control of and how to utilise those. Many a times in life we feel out of sorts, out of control with everything. In those times it’s important to remember it’s our life. We decide what happens. I am sure if you live in UK —you probably have heard this phrase multiple times, mainly after Brexit —take back control. Well, something similar to this. In this brand new year —I hope we stop trying to control or change what isn’t within our control as it will only drain our energy and peace of mind. Why not use the same energy into what we can control and make the best use out of it.
Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?
Without further ado, if you are interested —keep on reading.
Your Response To Your Feelings
This you are 100% in control of. You and only you decide how you react to a certain situation. For example, anger has always been my worst enemy. Whenever I am angry I burst into tears and this prevents me from articulating my thoughts. Without speaking about what bothered me then, I keep those emotions within and slowly resentment creeps in. I feel like at those moments if I were able to control my feelings and communicate, I wouldn’t have to hold onto all these negative emotions at a later date. Because more than often what’s bothering me right now will not be such a big of a deal couple of days or hours later. This is why I am working on my communication skills.
You are always bigger than the situation you are facing. Nothing is too great for you to handle. If you can’t change a situation, change your perception of it. That’s where your personal power is. Either be controlled —or be in control.
What You Hold Onto
It’s our choice what we choose to keep. The memories, people, places to relationships. It’s important to remember: memories don’t define us, they are just part of us, that we created. The same way we could create some more. New ones, better ones. Hold onto what matters. Keep the things that makes you happy. Focus on what matters. Surround yourself with positive people.
What You Let Go
Letting go is very important for moving on. We can’t forever be caged within our past. We can’t possibly move forward in our life if we keep holding onto the bar of past experiences. I feel letting go cleanses our palate. More space to make new memories. Holding onto painful memories only hardens our heart. Let it free. Let go. Make life little better.
There’s also many benefits of letting go, it heals our being. Allows forgiveness. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up—it means putting yourself first. It means taking control of your emotions. Since I have started to let go, I engaged more in self care. That in turn made me more aware of myself and allowed me to practice mindfulness. This I feel is one of the great ways to exercise letting go.
Minor changes in thinking, I’ve found, lead to major changes in my reality. I hope this has been some help to you.