My Guide To Emotional Self Care

As you might be aware there are many types of self-care and in today’s post, I want to explore inner self-care that each of us has to nourish. Taking into account how you are feeling to investing time to do better when it comes to emotions. Last year around this time I approached the idea of being kinder to our minds and it has been an absolute game-changer. In so many ways my mental health has changed when I am not suppressing my emotions or constantly asking myself why am I so lazy to feel the emotions as they come and asking myself what’s making me lazy and what can I do to improve it.

Anxiety can make you do odd things as I have mentioned in my previous post and it’s only when we start to take care of ourselves not just physically but mentally too —we see a drastic change in moods. Without further ado, if you are interested in my guide to emotional self-care, keep on reading:

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EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS

This goes without saying. I am constantly working at it because I am so bad at expressing my feelings. I not your typical lay it out kinda girl, I am more of silent tears, cryptic writing, no one will understand type. I don’t like talking about my feeling to others, I can write about it in my journal or have a full conversation all in my head but speaking those words can be tricky. I was always told I don’t know when you are feeling anything. It dates back to a long time, I just think no one cares enough to listen or what’s the point in ruining someone else’s day. All this is dumb which is why I am working hard to express myself. I am learning to put my faith in humanity again. Baby steps. If you are like me —more people care about you than you know —we just got to believe it.

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LEARN TO LAUGH MORE

This has helped me so much. It’s about learning to see the other side of life, to find laughter in crap days. To able to pick yourself up, dust all the negativity energy off and laugh with all your heart. It may sound odd but as my anxiety has worsened, I started to let go of a lot of things and that in turn allowed me to enjoy the little things. Laugh out loud more often than simply typing LOL. With depression I learned the value of inner peace —I am not sure how I can explain that, without being melodramatic —just able to enjoy my own company, freely laugh at bad jokes, to smile more. When they say laughter heals a lot of pain —it’s true!

BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF

Yes, please. Emotional self-care is all about allowing yourself time. Being easy on yourself. Sometimes it’s okay to fail, or for the plan B to not work out. Maybe something brighter is brewing around the corner. It’s so important right now for all of us to take care of our mental health. Be patient. Feel all the pain. Take time to heal. Treat yourself. You mater.

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ASK FOR HELP

Please do! There is no shame in asking for help. I can’t even begin to tell you how much courage and bravery it takes to say I need help. Therefore, please listen when someone reaches out. There can be a notion of “she doesn’t look depressed” —I mean, how does one with depression looks like? It’s about time we move away from the Hollywood perception of mental health and find the human level of it. Someone who looks perfectly fine to you maybe be having suicidal thoughts because we simply do not know what’s going on behind the scene. Case and point Meghan Markle.

It’s okay to feel sad. Just remember that. Seek help if you need to. People care about you.

CREATE NEW EXPERIENCES

Always find time for yourself. Do all the things that make you happy. Sometimes going out of our comfort zones can bring a lot of joy into our lives. Create those memories that will last a lifetime.

COMPLIMENTS

End of last year and the beginning of this year, out of nowhere —I have broken out like crazy. Never in my life, I had cystic acne nor was I exposed to clogged pores as I was during those months. It has clam down just recently. But the point of sharing this with you all is that —throughout the whole period my self-esteem had hit the lowest despite not admitting to myself. I didn’t want those feelings to have a concrete meaning. There were days I didn’t want to get out of the house, or I felt ugly. One day while examining myself in the mirror at length I just had enough. I didn’t want to feel like that anymore. The main reason was I did not want acne to make me feel a certain way. Slowly I started to compliment myself more with acne and all. I wanted to create a space for myself where I can truly appreciate myself. It was all about not letting those negative thoughts to undermine ms as a person. Compliment yourself and accept compliments in return. The blemishes are what makes us that extra bit pretty.

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Here’s sending you lots of love. Let me know what you think. Have a great day!

12 Comments

  1. Express your feelings is very important especially with such a Pandemic going on one shouldn’t feel lonely or alone. If they have any issues they should open up with their loved ones for sure.
    A great Reminder with this post as all the remaining also plays a major role in self care.

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  2. Great post! I love that you added ask for help because that is so important. A lot of times we are ashamed or afraid to ask for help but we’re only human and sometimes we need help and that’s okay.

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    1. It’s true —sometimes it can be hard to ask help and that’s why it’s so important for all of us to normalise “asking for help”. It’s okay to do it.

      Thanks so much for reading🌼 x

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  3. I love this 💕 often when we think of self care, we think of candles and bubble bath, which is lovely but not always enough to help ourselves.
    I have also struggled with expressing my feeling, worrying that they arent valid but being honest and talking about it really helps to lift a weight off your chest!
    It’s so amazing that you are complimenting yourself. It’s one of the hardest things to do and something I need to get better at xxx

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    1. Its true and bizarre that complimenting ourselves is SO hard. It should be easy given how amazing each of us are but doubt, societies idea of perfection to the airbrushed pictures that get in the way.

      Thank you for reading🌼😘 xx

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