Few days ago I wrote a post about about When Good Things Happen and I talked about how when good things happen —happiness is not exactly how I pictured it. In today’s post I want to discuss what is happiness and how to get to it. I always like to explore the deeper meanings of contentment, happiness and timing of our lives. I want to know how each feelings contributes in our daily lives. When I first started my blog it was all about reflective thoughts, my journey to find the serene place and those everyday struggles with the lingering sadness. I come a long way since I started this blog and the meaning of a lot things has changed as I have evolved and understood life in a way that matters to me.
If you are interested in reading my abstract thoughts on happiness —let’s get going.
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It will happen organically. Happiness is a bit like a relationship or finding the one. First of all do not wait for societies idea of what you need to be happy. The notion that big things like getting a job, finding love, buying a house to going on a holiday will get you the contentment you crave —is not always accurate. No things can get you to contentment. It comes from within, in my opinion. It’s better to just go with the flow. Happiness is a feeling, we cannot force it. It took me a long time to understand what true happiness is —I will tell you— it is much different from societal view because by constantly waiting to be happy, and chasing the feeling we make ourselves feel anxious. We put so much pressure on ourselves. We set a criteria that is impossible to match.
I will let you into a secret that changed my understanding of happiness —no one can be happy 100% of the time. It’s not possible. So many factors contribute to that, mainly social media. Sometimes it can be hard to recognise happiness when it hits us because we are so busy looking for something else. When we come to terms with the idea that there will be bad days and good days and happiness isn’t all about staying happy all the time —it’s about welcoming life. To being open.
Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. Please live. Stop waiting and start living. Most people say when living out the last days of their lives that they wish they didn’t waste their life by chasing materialistic things or having a sky-high to-do list. We must cherish every day that we get to live. We are one of those lucky ones —to be blessed with a life, knowing we still have possibilities is a luxury not everyone is privileged enough to have. Don’t waste the one life you are given by chasing, waiting, and holding back. Live boldly. Take chances. Be uncomfortable to get to your perfect zone.
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LET GO OF PERFECTION
No ones life is perfect. No social media tells you the full story. Stop searching for happiness by comparing your life with others. I read a quote on Instagram few days ago and it really struck me: Stop comparing yourself. Flowers are pretty but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike. I always say we cannot and must not seek contentment through social media. Those sun-kissed picture are not it. No holidays or the one will get you to your happiness. It’s a feeling that you must find from within. Let go of the idea of perfection. Nothing and no one is perfect. Perfection is not happiness. Everyone’s picture of happiness is different. It’s the feeling of dance in your feet when you wake up in the morning, when you know the world is filled with possibilities and knowing you cannot contain the feeling all day long— is the real deal.
I hope you have enjoyed reading this. Do let me know what are your thoughts about happiness.